Some times its very hard to start a story or give an explaination when there are so many details involved.
After moving house, a new house maid came, it didnt work out she had been stealing days off, also had a boyfriend who was driving round the area regulary, and making demands of her not to leave the house, in the end she was fired, not because she wasnt doing a good job, but becasue i couldnt handle the stress, a few weeks passed and she was asking for her job back and i offered it to her, she obviously had recieved new part time work and wanted to consider her options,
It seems she had a new job, but she offered me another girl to come do the job, obviously i accepted, as i weas tired from working full time, and trying to manage the house.
The new girl arrived and i could not fault her, meantime - the old house maid did not work out in her new job and was with out work, she sent various messages asking to come back, but i declined, she even was asking the new house maid to give her job over to her.
I asked the new house maid to cut her contact with the old house maid, i gave her a new phone and a new phone number, and all was going well.
fridays are days off, and thats exactly what she was having was a day off,
i revieved a message from the old house maid, giving me details of a message that was sent to her by the new house maid... it read, ya allah pls help me.... dont too late to come here, bcos they want to bring us other place, my mobile and my money they are stole all, only my phone the other one im hiding..
what the hell are you supose to think after reading that: she goes for her day off and it seems she has been robbed or abducted! great.... my mind is telling and showing me all sorts of horrid things,
I called the ex house maid to ask where the new house maid could have went, she denied even knowing the address of where she would be - even tho i know she told me she was going to her old room, a room that she used to share with rayma the old house maid.
I sat up right in my bed wondering what to do, i remembered that i had taken phone numbers of 3 men whom rayma had been involved with and i rememeber rayma telling me that one of these men were her boyfirend and one was nooras boyfrined, so i called rafic - nooras boyfriend, i got a little angry at him over the phone, he told me he recieved a message from noora saying that 3 men have come to the room where she was hiding stole her phone and money and said they were CID, she then wrote that she was locked in a villa upstairs in a room in sharjah, she remembered seeing kwait hospital and a mosque,
I called for my girlfriend and asked if she knew anyone wo lived in sharjah who could suss the area out, where is this kwait hospital and what kind of area is it, she got back to me and said its a bangladeshi area which is pretty run down and known very well for sex slavary.
Im freeking out by this time and thinking of all the bruital things that these dirty men could be doing to her.
I was very angry at the people who took her - how could they storm into a room, flashing id cards and saying they were the police then taking 2 of the girls in there car - not to the police station but to a villa in the next state, my mind flashed again to people telling me of how many women are found dumped in the desert each year.
The story was very suspisious, i tried the new number i had bought for noora, i knew she was carring 2 phones and hopefully if one was stolen and she had managed to text using the other one then maybe she still had it.
She anwsered it - whispering to me, saying the man is comming, she is locked in a white villa and there are so many bangladeshi men down stairs - that maybe more than 20 men have been inside her. my heart is in my mouth by this time.
My friend and my boyfriend are silent, saying finding her would be like looking for a needle in a hay stack... very true , but my mind cant ajust to not finding her. eventually i persuade them to hep me at least go look, i call her boyfirend rafic and he agrees also,
My boyfirned and i set off in the car to look for her, we take a long time to reach the next state as i had some confussion with my navigation system, eventually we get to the hospital and our first reaction is holy shit there are 4 mosques on each side and many while villas,
The 3 guys who included my boyfriend, nooras boyfriend and the other girl who was taken with nooras boyfirnd and we start the hunt, we go inside many villas, talk to many people to suss the area out, all the bachalar places are searched, and 5 hours later we are getting crabby with each other,
ocassionally i call noora who is still whispering and very hard to undersstand through her sobbing and secritive talking.
eventually we stop for water, we had been walking in the sun for hours, we recieved a text message from another number, its noora, she says she has stolen one of the mens phones becuase there is no load in her one, and states there is a tree outside the mosque,
we wait a little time and we call back the number- a man anwsers the phone, he pretends for sometime not to know anything.
a little later we are becoming grumpy with each other and two men aproch us, we give the number to them to call from there phone and they call it pretending they are looking for a villa in the area, as when they asked the man what his job was it turned out he rents out rooms, i stomp away from this conversation and find myself sitting on a kerb across the street from them. so tired and angry that we havnt found her, that i can hear her voice in whispers - that she cant try to escape and that she is being raped over and over again by diffeerent dirty men,
suddenly the others join me and say they have a car registration number from the man and i sent many messages to him telling him to let the girls go many people are searching the area and its only a matter of time before we find her,
we walk again up the street searching more villas and propertys, only to be called back, down by the 2 men.
he says to me - pay 1000aed and i will take you to the place where the girls are... im angry at him - wondering how he would know now, if he didnt get anything from the man i asked him to call but a number plate then how suddenly he can tell us where they are.
obviously the only white people in the area are my boyfriend and i- and concidering that we had entered nearly every villa him mostly as i was a little over come by the smell in many of the places we had went to - and i was likely to shout at someone or say some words i might regret.
i agree to pay the 1000aed - then what happens next is the shocker...
when i took a rest away from them wheile they were talking the first time.. was the door he led us to..
he knocks at the door, my heart is pounding with the thought - i cant belive they we are here in this street the whole time, how many times i passed that door thinkin it was a garden door, how many other doors are there in this area hiding the same secret that is behind this one..
i scream at him, we kick the door down - she slay there on a matress inside a closed room with no window he and another girl - crying and the room feels so hot... i hated the feeling i got when i seen them,
the man who was inside the locked room with them, ran - and we gave chase, at this point she collapsed and we had to rush her back to the the car which was a few streets away.
We drove fast back home - where we settled her .....
i had to send her back after this ... she was showing no signs of trama, even after she had told me that more than 20 men had sexually assulted her, that she had been sold for 6000aed.
i had to think of the danger i had put myself in, running after her the way we did, not knowing what situation we were dragging ourselfs into - or even if we would come away alive.
it frightens me now - esp when i read the storys this week in the news paper of people being buried alive in the desert, rival gangs of women trafficing and illegal alcohol suppliers.
she is better off with her family - so i thought.
After being dropped at immigration the girl ran away again.... she called me a couple of days later telling me where she was.... back to the flat where she had origionally been taken from.
is her life so bad back in her own country that she would want to stay here and be a target again for another situation.... very scary to think of ,
But we tried and did our best!
Thursday, February 18, 2010
Wednesday, January 6, 2010
A little bit of Religion...
Its the one topic which has the whole world in battle, either we love it or we loathe it, either we are belivers or non belivers, its a topic of conversation which can become extreamly debatable especially allowed in the so called free world of the western sociaity, where some people were born with the freedom to choose there own and not born into it - it has even caused great wars and battle amoung some countrys, or it becomes the excuse and reason for polictics.
Iast night i had a magical conversation with some friends where we were discussing where religion comes from what it means etc.... i am very pleased to comment that during our converations that non of us fought with each other about our beliefs and theorys, may i add that we were all people from different religions and faiths,
Religion is often described as a communal system for the coherence of belief focusing on a system of thought, unseen being, person, or object, that is considered to be supernatural, sacred, divine, or of the highest truth. Moral codes, practices, values, institutions, tradition, rituals, and scriptures are often traditionally associated with the core belief, and these may have some overlap with concepts in secular philosophy. Religion is also often described as a "way of life" or a life stance.
Religion is a history of man, its love and faith - its also a structure to living,
there are so many ways to define religion and i tried via wikipedia to find the right anwser, and cant come to any right or wrong, there is no such right or wrong, its very real, its very historic, and its all happining around us,
I feel proud that my heart is pure and my mind is open to accept that the world is full of different people all living out there lifes in so many cultures, and that i have the ability to accept all of the truth which is going on around me,
I do not disagree with any view on religion - due to the fact that if its being taught, practiced or preached and even obided by - then its a very real subject. ( i am although having problems beliving that we evolved, but thats another days topic)
If it means your wearing something to show your faith or you are participating in prayers daily in your routine or you are worshiping something then its happening. ( seeing is beliving )
but when we come to very extream views which do not fit in with the world and society as a whole - then i may have some issue with that...
but as far as religion as a whole... i embrace the reality of the subject....
Thank you to my friends for having the decentcy of being able to explain there views with out any predudisum towards each other and sharing with each other what they belive and practice in the way of living xxx
Take a look at some of the larger classed religions, ...,,,,,,
Abrahamic religions are practiced throughout the world. They share in common the Jewish patriarch Abraham and the Torah as an initial sacred text, although the degree to which the Torah is incorporated into religious beliefs varies between traditions.
Judaism accepts only the prophets of the Torah, but also relies on the authority of rabbis. It is practiced by the Jewish people, an ethnic group currently centered in Israel but also scattered throughout the Jewish diaspora. Today, Jews are outnumbered by Christians and Muslims.
Christianity is centered on the life and teachings of Jesus of Nazareth as presented in the Gospels and the writings of the apostle Paul (1st century CE). The Christian faith is essentially faith in Jesus as the Christ, the Son of God, and as Savior and Lord. As the religion of Western Europe during the time of colonization, Christianity has been propagated throughout the world. However, Christianity is not practiced as a single orthodoxy but as a mixture of Catholicism, Eastern Orthodoxy, Oriental Orthodoxy, and many forms of Protestantism.
Islam refers to the religion taught by the Islamic prophet Muhammad, a major political and religious figure of the 7th century CE. Islam is the dominant religion of northern Africa, the Middle East, and South Asia. As with Christianity, there is no single orthodoxy in Islam but a multitude of traditions which are generally categorized as Sunni and Shia, although there are other minor groups as well.
Wahhabi Islam is the established religion of the Kingdom of Saudi Arabia. There are also several Islamic republics, including Iran which is run by a Shia Supreme Leader.
The Bahá'í Faith was founded in the 19th century in Iran and since then has spread worldwide. It teaches unity of all religious philosophies and accepts all of the prophets of Judaism, Christianity, and Islam as well as additional prophets including its founder Bahá'u'lláh.
Smaller Abrahamic groups that are not heterodox versions of the four major groupings include Mandaeism, Samaritanism, the Druze, and the Rastafari movement.
Indian religions are practiced or were founded in the Indian subcontinent. Concepts most of them share in common include karma, caste, reincarnation, mantras, yantras, and darśana. Islam in India has also been influenced by Indian religious practices.
Hinduism is a synechdoche describing the similar Indian religious philosophies of Vaishnavism, Shaivism, and related groups, and is the predominant religion of the Indian subcontinent Hinduism is not a monolithic religion in the Romannic sense but a religious category containing dozens of separate philosophies amalgamated as Sanātana Dharma.
Buddhism was founded by Siddhattha Gotama in the 6th century BCE. Buddhists generally agree that Gotama aimed to help sentient beings end their suffering by understanding the true nature of phenomena, thereby escaping the cycle of suffering and rebirth (sa sāra), that is, achieving Nirvana. The main schools of Buddhism are Theravada, Mahayana, and Vajrayana.
Sikhism is a monotheistic religion founded on the teachings of Guru Nanak and ten successive Sikh Gurus in 15th century Punjab. Sikhs are found mostly in India.
Jainism, taught primarily by Parsva (9th century BCE) and Mahavira (6th century BCE), is an ancient Indian religion that prescribes a path of non-violence for all forms of living beings in this world. Jains are found mostly in India.
There are dozens of new Indian religions and Hindu reform movements, such as Ayyavazhi and Swaminarayan Faith.
Yazdânism is a non-Abrahamic monotheistic category including the traditional beliefs of the Yazidi, Alevi, and Ahl-e Haqq.
Religious movements centered in the United States are often derived from Christian tradition. They include the Latter Day Saint movement, Christian evangelicalism, and Unitarian Universalism among hundreds of smaller groups.
Folk religion is a term applied loosely and vaguely to disorganized local practices. It is also called paganism, shamanism, animism, ancestor worship, and totemism, although not all of these elements are necessarily present in local belief systems. The category of "folk religion" can generally include anything that is not part of an organization. The modern neopagan movement draws on folk religion for inspiration.
African traditional religion is a category including any type of religion practiced in Africa before the arrival of Islam and Christianity, such as Yoruba religion or San religion. There are many varieties of religions developed by Africans in the Americas derived from African beliefs, including Santería, Candomblé, Umbanda, Vodou, and Oyotunji.
Folk religions of the Americas include Aztec religion, Inca religion, Maya religion, and modern Catholic beliefs such as the Virgin of Guadalupe. Native American religion is practiced across the continent of North America.
Australian Aboriginal culture contains a mythology and sacred practices characteristic of folk religion.
Chinese folk religion, practiced by Chinese people around the world, is a primarily social practice including popular elements of Confucianism and Taoism, with some remnants of Mahayana Buddhism. Most Chinese do not identify as religious due to the strong Maoist influence on the country in recent history, but adherence to religious ceremonies remains common. New religious movements include Falun Gong and I-Kuan Tao.
Traditional Korean religion was a syncretic mixture of Mahayana Buddhism and Korean shamanism. Unlike Japanese Shinto, Korean shamanism was never codified and Buddhism was never made a social necessity. In some areas these traditions remain prevalent, but Korean-influenced Christianity is far more influential in society and politics.
Traditional Japanese religion is a mixture of Mahayana Buddhism and ancient indigenous practices which were codified as Shinto in the 19th century. Japanese people retain nominal attachment to both Buddhism and Shinto through social ceremonies, but irreligion is common.
A variety of new religious movements still practiced today have been founded in many other countries
Shinshūkyō is a general category for a wide variety of religious movements founded in Japan since the 19th century. These movements share almost nothing in common except the place of their founding. The largest religious movements centered in Japan include Soka Gakkai, Tenrikyo, and Seicho-No-Ie among hundreds of smaller groups
Iast night i had a magical conversation with some friends where we were discussing where religion comes from what it means etc.... i am very pleased to comment that during our converations that non of us fought with each other about our beliefs and theorys, may i add that we were all people from different religions and faiths,
Religion is often described as a communal system for the coherence of belief focusing on a system of thought, unseen being, person, or object, that is considered to be supernatural, sacred, divine, or of the highest truth. Moral codes, practices, values, institutions, tradition, rituals, and scriptures are often traditionally associated with the core belief, and these may have some overlap with concepts in secular philosophy. Religion is also often described as a "way of life" or a life stance.
Religion is a history of man, its love and faith - its also a structure to living,
there are so many ways to define religion and i tried via wikipedia to find the right anwser, and cant come to any right or wrong, there is no such right or wrong, its very real, its very historic, and its all happining around us,
I feel proud that my heart is pure and my mind is open to accept that the world is full of different people all living out there lifes in so many cultures, and that i have the ability to accept all of the truth which is going on around me,
I do not disagree with any view on religion - due to the fact that if its being taught, practiced or preached and even obided by - then its a very real subject. ( i am although having problems beliving that we evolved, but thats another days topic)
If it means your wearing something to show your faith or you are participating in prayers daily in your routine or you are worshiping something then its happening. ( seeing is beliving )
but when we come to very extream views which do not fit in with the world and society as a whole - then i may have some issue with that...
but as far as religion as a whole... i embrace the reality of the subject....
Thank you to my friends for having the decentcy of being able to explain there views with out any predudisum towards each other and sharing with each other what they belive and practice in the way of living xxx
Take a look at some of the larger classed religions, ...,,,,,,
Abrahamic religions are practiced throughout the world. They share in common the Jewish patriarch Abraham and the Torah as an initial sacred text, although the degree to which the Torah is incorporated into religious beliefs varies between traditions.
Judaism accepts only the prophets of the Torah, but also relies on the authority of rabbis. It is practiced by the Jewish people, an ethnic group currently centered in Israel but also scattered throughout the Jewish diaspora. Today, Jews are outnumbered by Christians and Muslims.
Christianity is centered on the life and teachings of Jesus of Nazareth as presented in the Gospels and the writings of the apostle Paul (1st century CE). The Christian faith is essentially faith in Jesus as the Christ, the Son of God, and as Savior and Lord. As the religion of Western Europe during the time of colonization, Christianity has been propagated throughout the world. However, Christianity is not practiced as a single orthodoxy but as a mixture of Catholicism, Eastern Orthodoxy, Oriental Orthodoxy, and many forms of Protestantism.
Islam refers to the religion taught by the Islamic prophet Muhammad, a major political and religious figure of the 7th century CE. Islam is the dominant religion of northern Africa, the Middle East, and South Asia. As with Christianity, there is no single orthodoxy in Islam but a multitude of traditions which are generally categorized as Sunni and Shia, although there are other minor groups as well.
Wahhabi Islam is the established religion of the Kingdom of Saudi Arabia. There are also several Islamic republics, including Iran which is run by a Shia Supreme Leader.
The Bahá'í Faith was founded in the 19th century in Iran and since then has spread worldwide. It teaches unity of all religious philosophies and accepts all of the prophets of Judaism, Christianity, and Islam as well as additional prophets including its founder Bahá'u'lláh.
Smaller Abrahamic groups that are not heterodox versions of the four major groupings include Mandaeism, Samaritanism, the Druze, and the Rastafari movement.
Indian religions are practiced or were founded in the Indian subcontinent. Concepts most of them share in common include karma, caste, reincarnation, mantras, yantras, and darśana. Islam in India has also been influenced by Indian religious practices.
Hinduism is a synechdoche describing the similar Indian religious philosophies of Vaishnavism, Shaivism, and related groups, and is the predominant religion of the Indian subcontinent Hinduism is not a monolithic religion in the Romannic sense but a religious category containing dozens of separate philosophies amalgamated as Sanātana Dharma.
Buddhism was founded by Siddhattha Gotama in the 6th century BCE. Buddhists generally agree that Gotama aimed to help sentient beings end their suffering by understanding the true nature of phenomena, thereby escaping the cycle of suffering and rebirth (sa sāra), that is, achieving Nirvana. The main schools of Buddhism are Theravada, Mahayana, and Vajrayana.
Sikhism is a monotheistic religion founded on the teachings of Guru Nanak and ten successive Sikh Gurus in 15th century Punjab. Sikhs are found mostly in India.
Jainism, taught primarily by Parsva (9th century BCE) and Mahavira (6th century BCE), is an ancient Indian religion that prescribes a path of non-violence for all forms of living beings in this world. Jains are found mostly in India.
There are dozens of new Indian religions and Hindu reform movements, such as Ayyavazhi and Swaminarayan Faith.
Yazdânism is a non-Abrahamic monotheistic category including the traditional beliefs of the Yazidi, Alevi, and Ahl-e Haqq.
Religious movements centered in the United States are often derived from Christian tradition. They include the Latter Day Saint movement, Christian evangelicalism, and Unitarian Universalism among hundreds of smaller groups.
Folk religion is a term applied loosely and vaguely to disorganized local practices. It is also called paganism, shamanism, animism, ancestor worship, and totemism, although not all of these elements are necessarily present in local belief systems. The category of "folk religion" can generally include anything that is not part of an organization. The modern neopagan movement draws on folk religion for inspiration.
African traditional religion is a category including any type of religion practiced in Africa before the arrival of Islam and Christianity, such as Yoruba religion or San religion. There are many varieties of religions developed by Africans in the Americas derived from African beliefs, including Santería, Candomblé, Umbanda, Vodou, and Oyotunji.
Folk religions of the Americas include Aztec religion, Inca religion, Maya religion, and modern Catholic beliefs such as the Virgin of Guadalupe. Native American religion is practiced across the continent of North America.
Australian Aboriginal culture contains a mythology and sacred practices characteristic of folk religion.
Chinese folk religion, practiced by Chinese people around the world, is a primarily social practice including popular elements of Confucianism and Taoism, with some remnants of Mahayana Buddhism. Most Chinese do not identify as religious due to the strong Maoist influence on the country in recent history, but adherence to religious ceremonies remains common. New religious movements include Falun Gong and I-Kuan Tao.
Traditional Korean religion was a syncretic mixture of Mahayana Buddhism and Korean shamanism. Unlike Japanese Shinto, Korean shamanism was never codified and Buddhism was never made a social necessity. In some areas these traditions remain prevalent, but Korean-influenced Christianity is far more influential in society and politics.
Traditional Japanese religion is a mixture of Mahayana Buddhism and ancient indigenous practices which were codified as Shinto in the 19th century. Japanese people retain nominal attachment to both Buddhism and Shinto through social ceremonies, but irreligion is common.
A variety of new religious movements still practiced today have been founded in many other countries
Shinshūkyō is a general category for a wide variety of religious movements founded in Japan since the 19th century. These movements share almost nothing in common except the place of their founding. The largest religious movements centered in Japan include Soka Gakkai, Tenrikyo, and Seicho-No-Ie among hundreds of smaller groups
Monday, January 4, 2010
Would you call it strong beliefs
This is the part where you have to get your point across, when you raise to your feet to take control of the room, because you feel so strongly that your thoughts and beliefs are correct, when you hush everyone silent because your thoughts are the only ones that matter... you feel so strongly that you raise your voice above everyone else's - your heart is pounding and you are almost shaking in your shoes because everyone must agree with you, you have so many reasons why they should belive you, the only way that will calm you down is if they do agree, or if they choose there words so carefully to agree to disagree.
What you will not be able to take in is...... a few sentences that are not quietly given to you, your fellows may feel very aggressivly that -
You are wrong, Thats not going to happen, You are so negitive or thats a bit far fetched
What would you call it? manipulation? Control, - How would you handle yourself?
Keep on shouting and making great points untill everyone agreed with you? Because you KNOW that you are right !! (if your able to) or would you back down and let go of your alter ego?
maybe you just need to know the difference between manipulation as its some times called, control and belief system .... EASIER SAID THAN DONE SOMETIMES !
I guess we all need more glucose!!!!
Psychological manipulation - a means of gaining control or social influence over others by methods which might be considered unfair. Social advantage may be sought through either manipulative or persuasive rhetorical arguments
Self control is the ability to control one's emotions and desires, is the capacity of efficient management to the future. In psychology it is sometimes called self-regulation, and exerting self-control through the executive functions in decision making is thought to deplete a resource in the ego.[1] Many things affect one's ability to exert self-control, but self-control particularly requires sufficient glucose levels in the brain. Exerting self-control depletes glucose. Research has found that reduced glucose, and poor glucose tolerance (reduced ability to transport glucose to the brain) are tied to lower performance in tests of self-control, particularly in difficult new situations.[
Here are academic theories about how and what we believe.
Automatic Believing: we initially believe everything; then we think.
Belief Bias: We accept things that fit into our belief systems.
Belief Perseverance: once formed, a belief will persist.
Conversion: beliefs can change suddenly when we see the light.
Disconfirmation bias: Agreeing with what supports beliefs and vice versa.
Fowler's Faith Stage Theory: stages of different levels of religious belief.
Just-world phenomenon: Good and bad will be rewarded and punished.
Polarization: Taking increasingly extreme views.
Schema: we believe our internal models are accurate.
Selective Perception: we see things through beliefs, not as they really are.
Source Credibility: Who we are likely to believe.
What you will not be able to take in is...... a few sentences that are not quietly given to you, your fellows may feel very aggressivly that -
You are wrong, Thats not going to happen, You are so negitive or thats a bit far fetched
What would you call it? manipulation? Control, - How would you handle yourself?
Keep on shouting and making great points untill everyone agreed with you? Because you KNOW that you are right !! (if your able to) or would you back down and let go of your alter ego?
maybe you just need to know the difference between manipulation as its some times called, control and belief system .... EASIER SAID THAN DONE SOMETIMES !
I guess we all need more glucose!!!!
Psychological manipulation - a means of gaining control or social influence over others by methods which might be considered unfair. Social advantage may be sought through either manipulative or persuasive rhetorical arguments
Self control is the ability to control one's emotions and desires, is the capacity of efficient management to the future. In psychology it is sometimes called self-regulation, and exerting self-control through the executive functions in decision making is thought to deplete a resource in the ego.[1] Many things affect one's ability to exert self-control, but self-control particularly requires sufficient glucose levels in the brain. Exerting self-control depletes glucose. Research has found that reduced glucose, and poor glucose tolerance (reduced ability to transport glucose to the brain) are tied to lower performance in tests of self-control, particularly in difficult new situations.[
Here are academic theories about how and what we believe.
Automatic Believing: we initially believe everything; then we think.
Belief Bias: We accept things that fit into our belief systems.
Belief Perseverance: once formed, a belief will persist.
Conversion: beliefs can change suddenly when we see the light.
Disconfirmation bias: Agreeing with what supports beliefs and vice versa.
Fowler's Faith Stage Theory: stages of different levels of religious belief.
Just-world phenomenon: Good and bad will be rewarded and punished.
Polarization: Taking increasingly extreme views.
Schema: we believe our internal models are accurate.
Selective Perception: we see things through beliefs, not as they really are.
Source Credibility: Who we are likely to believe.
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